我辭了工作，父親卻不讓我回家，五六年後他做一事讓我感動大哭！


我辭了工作，父親卻不讓我回家，五六年後他做一事讓我感動大哭！





我跟父親很少有交流，直到二十八歲以前，但現在每次見面我們倆都會暢談一頓飯的時間，他嗜酒如命，也因為此身體特別不好，有一天他跟生意夥伴喝醉酒，半夜去了醫院，所以我們一家人都勸他少喝點，尤其我媽嘮叨的厲害，我也隔三差五勸慰，可他不聽。我本來擁有一份很不錯的穩定工作，辭了，一心想創業。天下父母都一樣，我父親怕我活不下去，堅決反對，我回家跟他幾次“談判”，可每次都說不過他，他仗著自己是爹，每次都打斷我說話，他仗著自己做了一輩子生意，每次都對我誇誇其談……



作為兒子，父親是我心中的英雄，大多事情我認為他講的有道理，但結婚過日子以後，想做些自己想做的事，這種慾望或者說夢想早就有了，就算他結合他的人生講的話很有道理，我也不時點頭認可，但我還是想自己決定自己的人生，於是我三五次跟他講自己的想法，可他依然態度強硬，反對。可我還是做了，最後一次懇求他，我說這回不管你答不答應，回去後我就辭職。他當時就生氣了，平生少有的怒斥我。




他說：我和你媽就是希望你們在外面穩穩噹噹的，輕鬆快樂的活著，不需要有太多錢，不需要有太高的慾望！我反駁他說：難道在公司上班就穩穩噹噹的？我也一點不快樂啊！我就是想趁著大好青春做點自己想做的事，怎麼了？我又沒貪圖享樂，你說希望我快樂、輕鬆！可是你現在這麼約束我，反對我，我幸福嗎？快樂嗎？他不說話了，不停抽煙，我媽的思想里永遠沒有別的，她只惦念兒子，她見我和爸倆吵了起來，急忙說：他都大了，你還管他幹什麼！



我那時候也許真得需要父親一句認可，或者鼓勵的話，哪怕他不管我呢！這可能給我以後走的路增添很大很大的信心，父母的支持對於孩子來說——無可替代。可是他沉默了片刻，最後居然說了一句：就是不行，你要是敢辭掉工作你就別認我這個爸，你就永遠別再回來了。然後他起身就走開了……隨後的這些年，我和他心裡一直存在隔閡，一年也就過年見一面，待幾天，見一面也就一頓飯的聊天時間，他還是像往常一樣打擊我的信心，希望我罷手，我還是堅持己見！



雖然創業以後，我也一度陷入最窘迫的困境中，但我依然意志堅定——直到去年過年回家，我們倆又吵了一架，我大過年的晚上開車憤憤而走，我說，我再也不想回到這個家了。高速路上，一直放著許巍的歌，電話一直打來，是我媽和我媳婦……每次恨父親，都會想從小到大他的“錯誤”！但回過頭我發現，我還是愛父親的，雖然我一度懷疑他是否像我一樣可以理解他們那一代人的恩怨糾葛，以及他的每一次人生抉擇，他是否真正惦念我，還是純粹為了他招搖過市般的虛榮、面子！




今年搬家，父親突然就來了，晚上我倆喝酒，他又講了很多，都是關於這幾年我所做的事情，他居然都瞭如指掌！我突然發現原來他一直在細細觀察著我走的路，也許是我媽告訴他的？他對我講：輸幾次沒什麼，也不要在乎別人的偏見，只要你走正道就行！就怕連你自己都洩氣了，既然當初你下那麼大決心做了選擇，不管你以後發展成什麼樣，都得為自己的一切買單，但得對你老婆孩子負責……我沒想到，在我創業失敗時他突然又這麼說了，我也突然明白了父親的心意……



他在這住了四天，一天沒閒著，他用他孫子平時坐的嬰兒車把我們的全部家當一點一點搬到了新家，就怕我們因為工作忙，怕我們來回折騰太辛苦。第四天家搬完了，沒用我跟老婆動一根手指頭。他突然就說要回去，我跟老婆都勸他再多待幾天吧，他說不了，家裡還一堆事兒，你們好好照顧自己，爸知道你們在外面的，比我們在家還要不容易！臨走前，父親還留了兩萬塊錢給我們，我說不要，可他執意塞給了我，然後他就走了，那天下雨，看著父親上車的背影，我大哭。










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