哥哥三十多歲，就因癌症走了，我承諾一事我媽抱著我痛哭流涕！


哥哥三十多歲，就因癌症走了，我承諾一事我媽抱著我痛哭流涕！





我媽今年六十一歲了，頭髮斑白，有胃病，還有頸椎腰椎病，是個勤勞簡樸的人，我媳婦前年臘月生下兒子，之後孩子就一直由我媽帶著。我和媳婦都得上班掙錢，我岳母也沒時間，我爸到了晚年還得為了還債繼續打工，因此，孩子只能我媽一個人帶，兒子剛出生時一段時間是在老家，後來我媽怕我們掛念孩子，就跑來市裡了，還有一點——她一個人帶孩子也實在太累。我爸又不在家，我媽甚至連做飯吃飯的功夫都沒有，到這就好一些了。



至少我們下班後還能幫著做做飯或者哄哄孩子，現在我兒子已經會走路了，越來越淘。生兒子以後才明白養兒之不易，就光抱他哄他餵他都需要很大精力，孩子也捆人，你不能離開他半步，一天兩天還好說，長年累月心裡也會有變化，想想我媽連吃飯的功夫都沒有，每一天真夠難熬的。可是我媽卻說，這都是她應該做的！我想，什麼叫應該啊，作為兒女的，都已經成家立業了，可還不能為父母減輕生活負擔。




我們結婚時買房花了三十多萬，其中有十多萬都是爸媽借的，我爸為了還債只能六十多歲還得出門打工，平時想孫子了就打電話或者發視頻，看見孫子了開心的不得了。現在我和媳婦每天都努力工作，就是為了掙更多錢，可舉家過日子後才發現生活真沒那麼簡單，沒上學時想像的那麼容易，尤其是掙點錢。不光這，家裡還有很多事，有大事也有小事，我們家這幾年的最大最不幸的事就是我哥癌症走了，他才比我大四歲，才三十多歲啊！嫂子不願意要孩子，我們家又特別想留住這個根……



我侄子只能住在我家，他才七歲，也得由我媽看管照顧著，我哥的離開本身就對我爸媽產生了致命的打擊，他們應該哭過無數次，但我只看過幾次，父母雖然很平凡，但一生的歷練也早已足夠堅強。侄子還小，可能他還不太懂這一切意味著什麼！他還特別淘氣，有時候特別淘了我媽會生氣地嚷他兩聲，或者打兩下他的小屁股，我知道，她比任何人都疼愛這個孩子。哥家裡有一套房子，爸媽說給我，嫂子也同意了，她說她再無別的能力，也只能讓我們家把孩子養大了，讓我們家養。




不就是讓我養麼，可是我一點經濟能力都沒有，才二十多歲，剛結婚生子過日子……說實話，這真是一個很難決定的決定，但也沒有別的辦法，人生不定遇到什麼事情，只要還有希望，就得擔負責任，想想我哥對我一直那麼好，對爸媽也孝順，我爸生重病那年，全靠我哥花錢治病，他們還怕我惦記，甚至合夥瞞著我……我必須得這麼做，我想：這孩子，我養了！我一定把他養到大，一定像對自己親生孩子一樣對待。



我媳婦捧怕對他不好，每件小事都刻意對他更好，就算我們生活很拮据，但她從不吝惜給侄子買這買那。我跟媳婦也商量好了，將來會把那套房子給侄子，那本來就是他的，而現在我們能做的，就是對得起爸媽，對得起哥哥嫂子，擔負起該擔負的責任，盡心盡力而為。爸媽是很難說出口的，這決定我隨後就主動跟我媽說了，我媽聽後一瞬間再也繃不住眼淚，突然就一頭扎進我懷抱裡，痛哭著說：我老兒子也長大了，媽替你哥謝謝你，謝謝你媳婦……就這樣我們家又多了一個孩子，這個家又多了生機與希望，現在我侄子調皮的管我叫叔爸……










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