教育專家談教養！面對孩子說謊，70%父母都做錯！有些事情你一定要知道！


教育專家談教養！面對孩子說謊，70%父母都做錯！有些事情你一定要知道！




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一位媽媽說，他的孩子最近出現了撒謊的現象，孩子常常為了達到自己的某種目的而編造謊言，對此她感到非常憤怒。也因此訓斥了孩子好多次，可孩子總是改不了撒謊的習慣，她現在很苦惱，不知道自己到底應該怎麼做才有效？




其實，每個孩子撒謊的背後都有自己的原因。比如，有的孩子撒謊，是為了獲得成就感，或者滿足自己的虛榮心；有的是為了獲得別人的誇獎或者關注。最常見的是，孩子撒謊往往是為了逃避承擔後果，避免被責怪或者懲罰……而這些行為背後的原因，是值得我們認真思考的。



第一、為什麼孩子不願意給我們說真話，而是通過用謊言的方式來維持？



是我們經常向孩子要求他做不到的事情嗎？ 還是當他做了某件事以後，我們經常給予他的是責備，而非表揚和鼓勵？




又或者，我們總是會忽略孩子的感受，孩子覺得父母不能夠理解他們，他們漸漸覺得和父母的溝通越來越困難，於是乾脆用謊言代替，這樣更省事。具體是哪一種情況，需要我們結合自身的情況，去深入思考。



第二、當發現孩子說謊了，你會怎麼做？揭穿or指責？



多數媽媽當聽到孩子說謊，當下的反應就是揭穿和指責，而且還帶著滿滿的憤怒。要知道孩子選擇說謊，內心也有很大的負擔，本來就處在害怕、擔心、無奈和愧疚當中。




如果父母意識不到孩子背後的恐懼，只顧自己一味發火，不僅會增加孩子的恐懼感，也會反激起孩子的憤怒和叛逆。這種處理方式不僅無效，更不利於親子關係的成長。



第三，放棄結果，關心過程



謊言的背後，父母真正需要關心的是：孩子為什麼會這麼做？ 只有心平氣和地和孩子交流、慢慢引導，讓孩子知道父母關心的是孩子成長的過程，而並不是事情的結果。當孩子知道了結果並不是最重要的，也就不會再去用謊言去維持一個結果了。




第四、父母的態度決定了孩子對這件事的看法



切記不要給孩子貼上“撒謊”的標籤 孩子撒謊了，並不能代表他就是一個愛撒謊的孩子。撒謊是一種行為，而不是一個人格特徵。 當你用“撒謊”去強調孩子的人格時，孩子會自卑，會羞愧，久而久之，自己也會越來越認同這個標籤所標明的自己，一旦認同就很難再發生改變，內心的那種自卑和羞愧可能會伴隨一生。但如果你讓孩子意識到這僅僅只是一種行為，一種可以改變的行為，那麼，孩子改變的自我動機就會增強。



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